While on vacation, one night I ate at a bar and after eating, a couple of guys sat down next to me. The first 3 comments that came out of one of the guy’s mouth were:
“I hate basketball.”
“I also hate Arabs. You’re not Arab are you?”
“Do you think that guy in the Star Wars t-shirt likes basketball?”
So all critical comments that just made me feel uncomfortable right away.
My response to him: “Be nice.”
He looked around and said: “Yeah, I guess I should be.”
He then decided to order us shots. He wanted to order tequila shots but I haven’t had a tequilla shot since I had way too many of them one night at a wedding in Wyoming about 15 years ago.
He talked about how he used to live in CO and asked me a few questions…He started to flirt with me but his flirting were more comments that made me feel uncomfortable. But at the moment, I thought I was uncomfortable because I hadn’t been to a bar in awhile and I thought maybe I was getting too old to flirt. When I got back to the hotel room, I asked myself, why was I weirded out? And thought about it and realized it was because the guy was being a complete ass. It had nothing to do with me. Thinking about it some more now, of course I’m not too old too flirt. I do have to start getting out more and going on more dates because I think I’m a little rusty.
So as I turn 41 tomorrow, it does feel a little weird to still be single. Depression is starting to creep back in, but it’s due to a combination of a fight with a family member and still not having a job. But since it was just three years ago when I was looking for a job and it took me an entire year to find a job, I know it takes time and I have to be patient. I know this so I wait and wait (while applying and interviewing week after week). I’m trying to remain positive through this storm.